For those of you who know me well, you will know that the relationships I have with others is
very important to me. I always want people to feel included and welcome as well as feeling that they are valued. I'm not someone who has hundreds of friends, I much prefer having a circle of people who know me inside and out because that way I know the relationship we have together has meaning.
I have three main friendship groups, my school friends, my (stagecoach) friends and my university friends. It can sometimes be difficult to balance equal time between them, especially when I'm at university. But I have known my home friends for nearly ten years, we can go weeks without talking but once we catch up, it's like we're 15 again and that's what I love about them.
Something I find very important is realising that meeting up is NECESSARY. Texting each other and saying "we need to meet up soon" isn't good enough. Make plans and be the initiator to keep your friendships growing if they are important to you.
I also find that understanding and acting upon each others love languages is vital and I don't just mean this for romantic relationships, I mean this fort ALL. My love languages are 'Words of Affirmation' and 'Quality Time' so I really appreciate it when people take the time to be with me. But it is different for everyone, which is why it's important to take the time and learn other peoples love languages. This way you can show those close to you, that you value them in your own special way.
Another thing I find equally important is being with people who share the same morals and values as me. This makes for healthy discussions and takes away unwanted negativity. Now don't get confused, I'm not saying you shouldn't be around people who challenge you because that is vital. I'm saying that I don't find it healthy to be around people who are always telling you that you're 'wrong'.
My family is my main support system and I find comfort in them because they listen to what I'm saying and try their hardest to understand how I'm feeling. I know that everyone is different and some may find comfort in friends or their pets but for me it's my family. This is because of the journey that we are currently facing (which I will get into in a whole other post).
Overall, one of the most important traits I look for in people is vulnerability. Someone who is empathetic and not sympathetic. Someone who doesn't just say "there there" but sits with you in that feeling and connects with you on your level. When this happens you feel so special and safe instead of feeling like you've overshared because you didn't get the reaction you had hoped for.
I just wanted to say a BIG THANK YOU to my friends and family, they are truly amazing and I can't believe I'm FINALLY starting this new chapter in my life!!!
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